I have a friend of mine who believes that no one can change. I of course, absolutely disagree with that. Cos' people do change, for the better or for the worse.
I have gone through so many things in my life. So do others. I lost friends, I betrayed people, I lied, I backstabbed people, I think i did them all. But, i realised that those are only some phases which I had to go through in order for me to learn and to be better in life, to be a better improved person. I learn from my mistake. But, it is saddening when you see someone changing for, I would not say the worse, but more of something which is not necessary.
These past few months, I got to "reconcile"(is that even the best word) with a friend of mine which I used to hate so much for some good reasons. I know i had been silly before because I listened to what people say about him. I hated him so much that I did not talk to him for quite sometimes, I mean for a longest time I can imagine not talking to someone.
So, i got to talk and hang out with him these past few months. We got to catch up with each other's stories. Slowly, after so long not having any form of communication with this friend, I found out a lot about him, what he is doing now, what he is up too, his life, and ect. Of course, he has chnaged a lot. So, do I. But , it is surprising that his transformation is great, greater than mine at least.
I was just stunned to know that the person I used to know is no longer the same one i knew before. It is fine because i believe people change and he of course has his point, right and reason to change.
I just had my luch today, and i was suddenly struck by surprise cos' at this point, I found out that he is now a smoker!! I am just shocked, stunned, taken aback. Oh my! I have nothing against people who smoke. I mean my father is a smoker himself. But, I PERSONALLY don't like it. I have problem with smoke, i can easily get suffocated, and yeah the smell irritates me. And of course, we all know the effects it brings to the smokers and to other non-smokers too. So, yeah, this friend of mine has changed!! He told the reason behind his smoking, and i just could not accept it. It took me a while to even think and take it in cos' he was known to me as non-smoker person before. Oh my, it is unbelievable!!
My point here is, people do change. And for that reason, I try to accept everyhting around me. I cannot control people, because no one is doing it on me too. It is just that, when we want to make a chnage in our life, do change for the better. Make a wise decision cos' everything is in yur hand. Your choice, your own risk, Your own consequences.
P/S: If you ever read this and you know it is you, I am sorry because that's how I feel about it. I have the right to think too right?
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